http://wellmd.stanford.edu/healthy/work-life-balance/ has great information and great tests you can do in private such as the self compassion test Self-compassion:
Perfectionistic? Hard on yourself? Rate your level of self-compassion from the website of Kristin Neff, PhD, creator of the validated self-compassion scale.
Rachel Remen gave a talk at the American Association of Medical Colleges last year on how to recapture your whole heart in medicine
I just finished the Brene Brown book Daring Greatly. It is a very powerful description of her research into how to become connected and whole hearted. http://books.google.com/books?id=cyRDrMMX8WoC&source=gbs_slider_cls_metadata_1_mylibrary For a short video on what the book is about check out her Ted Talk: http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html Twenty minutes could change the way you look at yourself, your students, your family and possible the world.